He is trying to get out of paying child support. His family condones his behavior of a 22 year old man. I asked the father of the baby for some financial help with my copays and he hasn't given me penny and thinks prenatal meds are a waste. I was told I never could get pregnant due to my personal health issues.
What's your opinion of a man who bails out on pregnant girlfriend and his unborn baby?
When the baby is bron go to child support office and file against him. You want to know what I think of men like this? Well, let me tell you----- they are nothing but losers that do not deserve to have children. If he does not want anything to do with this child then child support can help you get his parental rights taken from him. If he isn't going to be in this babies life anyway, then I say, Do not give him the priviledge of being anything but a sperm donor. Good Luck. You can do this without this man. As far as his family, the Apple Never Falls Far From The Tree.
Reply:make sure you hold on to any and all of your receipts. Any copays, medicine, formula, ect that is for your child. That way when u do go to court, which u should, u have proof of everything u have paid for that child.
Reply:he's scared, unresponsible and won't face up to his child
Reply:he is a major piece of s**t
Reply:I think it's a good thing that some states require men to pay for prenatal care too. I suggest you contact your local welfare office to find out if that is possible.
I think the man is a total ***- but if he was under the impression you could not get pregnant he could just be very put off by the whole situation. I would want to see how he behaves once he sees the child and starts paying support.
Reply:My opinion is that he needs to be shot, hung up and have his balls cut off..lol
But, now that I have that out of my system, take that jerk to court and have the judge deal with him.
Reply:In my opinion, he may be 22 years old but is not a man. If he will not step up, your only recourse is to get proof and go to court.
Reply:you don't need that kind of man.. and your baby certainly doesn't need that kind of father.
Reply:Personally, he's not a man you would want around your child. So good riddance! He's not worthy of such a beautiful gift!
Reply:Prenatal meds are vital for a healthy baby. Contact a lawyer, or social services, since it appears you're tight on money. You can't get pregnant on your own and you shouldn't have to pay for it alone! Good luck to you. Whatever you do, don't back down, that's what the coward wants!
Reply:Not much. Make sure you file for support as soon as the baby is born.
Reply:I think he's not a man. A real man would never leave the mother of his child in her time of need.
Reply:Like someone else said he is not man. All of that because he didn't want to pay child support!SMH I will pray for you ansd your baby.
Reply:you're better off without him. love your baby and forget about him. trying to get money out of him will be a heartache for you forever unless you just let him go.
Reply:He's a piece of trash. He should be sticking with you and the baby not ditching you two. But hell if he's like that you two are way better off without him. Just forget his ***..........his loss.
Im sorry but that aint a man. Thats a coward who cant face the fact that he got a girl pregnant.
Take his sorry butt to court and then move on without im and raise the baby. He may be 22 but mentaly he's 5.
Reply:I hate to tell you, but he doesn't owe you a dime until the baby is proven to be his. I'm afraid it is your cost. That is just the way it is when parents-to-be aren't married.
I also think he is very angry and probably thinks you lied to him that you couldn't get pregnant. That's why I tell guys that unless she has no uterus, she can get pregnant, so use condoms. You are just as culpable so don't go blaming all on him.
If you need prenatal meds, go to Walgreens and buy some. 100 tabs is $10. You don't need the prescription ones unless you have specific health problems and at your age, that is unlikely.
Reply:I know its hard and I know how you feel. Believe me you really don't want to know what my views are on this. I have a 2yr old son wityh my ex husband I am now 24yrs old and am 16 weeks pregnant with my ex bf's kid! Yes I said EX, he pressed for me to get an abortion but when I wouldn't he left and wants nothing to do with me or the kid! He is 32, I guess they never grow up sometimes. Ya Know? Oh yeah by the way he has a 5 year old son with his ex that he does everything for and I got preggo on the BC pill!
Reply:The man is a low-life. Take him to court to get your child support (search for a law firm that will do pro bono work or a firm that specializes in social services). He may be legally required to pay until the child is 18. Good luck to you.
Reply:You needc to screw this guy and get a man that will help you and your baby lead a productive life
Reply:wow thats messed up i would bring him to court and make him pay child support that or he will be running from the cops!!!!!! cause if you dont pay your child support then they take away your lisence!!!! Kick his A**
Reply:He is a scumsucking bastard
Reply:I really don't think you're all that responsible either. Pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get your act together. They aren't going to help, so get over it. Suck it up and move on.
Reply:He's an idiot. When you have your ultrasound (if your not still together) send him a copy of the picture and the DVD, then make him come crawling back, not that you would "want" him back. Otherwise, just get over the dirtbag and love your baby. Don't dwell too much on him or that would psychologically hurt your baby, even though she/he has not been born yet.
Reply:I actually went through the same thing, you can file for child support before the child is born, it's best to start the process now and when the child is born the court will petition a paternity test to prove he is the father. Also apply for help with the social services office for medicaid, because whatever the dr's bill is, the state will make him pay them back after they take care of your medical bill.
Reply:My daughter is 18 years old and going thru the same thing.Her ex-fiancee stayed around for about a week after he found out and when his parents told him they wanted nothing to do with it he dumped her. He will also be 22 years old. Guys like this arent worth having around.You can take care of this child yourself and hopefully with the help of your family. My daughter had to get on medicaid for medical insurance. As far as support goes ,where we live in indiana, the county prosecuters office can help establish paternity and court order support.(usually after the baby is born with dna testing)
Reply:that happend to me after a 2 years relationship... He left me, and didn't gave me a penny in my entire pregnancy, my parents help me a lot and my friends... I'm living with my parents, I have the health plan of the goverment, and my baby is 10 months and 1/2 and he has only giving me $120, I only wanted him in my daughters life and didn't wanted his money, but he did even asked for her, only have seen her twice and always say he is going to give me money but he never do it.. I put him on a childsupport case, a month ago and I feel better becuase my baby really needs the money, I'm not working. And it hurts to see pictures of him, my friends tell me they see him partying and me in my house taking care of the baby..... So believe there are a lot of words you can say that will describe that situation... but I haven't found one that will have alll the meanings and thoughts that I have about him.... Good Luck, take care of you and that baby!!!
Monday, April 26, 2010
I would like your opinion about returning to College now or later.?
I am asking this question because I am debating going back to school right now. I currently have 73 credits but only 64 that transferred to my new school. I have been on a break for the past year mostly because I stopped being able to afford school. I am debating on whether to go back now or pay off some of my $50,000 + in loans and then go back. I am working on a finance degree and currently have a full-time job in accounting. My job is okay for now. I am 21 and I am making $33K a year which is about $23K after taxes. I started taking classes online but my motivation is just not there. It seems like for the past year, everytime I try to pick up a book, I start worrying about adding to my school debt and trying to keep my personal debt under control. I plan on finishing but I am not sure now is the right time. What are your opinions? Thank you.
I would like your opinion about returning to College now or later.?
No matter if you go back no or go back later you are going to be paying for school. However, school prices do go up every year so you should consider that too. I disagree with the person saying if you wait, you won't return. I waited 7 years and went back...I graduate in October...but I did classes online and loved it. If you are having doubts then I say hold off until you know for sure this is what you want to do.
Reply:git er done
Reply:I didn't take loans out for my first two years of school and all my friends did. While I was working my way through school, my friends were in school full-time. At about 24 years old I was making 33k per year and my freinds about 45-50k, so I thought it kinda evened itself out because I didn't have 40k in student loans. At 27 all my friend are making 70k+ and I still make the same amount of money and am still working on my degree because I could only afford two classes per semester (and some semester none). So, this semester I am taking a full course load and took out a 20k loan.
Moral of the story, finish school first, even if you need to take out loans. You will work at higher pay when you get out, so it doesn't all just work out the same. I was very wrong and paying for it now. Work part-time for some extra cash and pay for books or one of your classes here and than yourself it you can. That will lower the amount of your student loans.
Your loans should be in forbarance while your in school. See your aid office if they arn't. Most student loans don't need to be paid until 6 months after graduation, so you have time to find employment. Some are even intrest free until your forbarence period is up.
Reply:I say finish school. check your mailbox
Reply:Debt is so stessful.. but you have to keep in mind that when you have your degree hopefully you will be making more moolah... just make sure if you take a longer break you don't completely demotivate to finish... cause your so close!!!
Reply:Go to school! If you go to school you will get a better job probly,be smart, and get better money with the better job.
Reply:I think you need to look at what the pros and cons are for getting the degree. Would it mean more money for you in the future? Is this the career path you truly want? Does the company you work for offer some kind of continuing education reimbursement? How long would it take to finish getting the degree? Are there any night classes you could take or online courses so you can continue working? Is there any financial aid available to you either through the government or private organizations?
I personally think that the sooner you return to college the more likely you will be to finish your degree. The longer you put it off, the less likely you will be. Life has a way of getting in the way...romance, family relations etc... may crop up that give you further excuses of why the timing is not right.
I wish you the best of luck!
Reply:Go back now and finish. If you wait any longer you will more than likely be even less motivated. What is the point of going for as long as you did and spending all that money if you aren't going to finish? Just go back, get it done and over with then you can get a much better paying job, be able to pay back that debt a lot faster and be much more satisfied with the outcome.
Reply:you should go back now. most of the time when people wait to go back to school they dont end up going back. go and finish your degree and before long you will be making at least 2x your current salary. there are so many possibilities once you have a college degree. go back and have fun, then worry about money.
Reply:Ok. Go back to school and stop worrying about personal debt. An education is best kind of investment. If you don't finish your degree you will probably be making the same amount (maybe 2-3K more) in ten years and you will severly limit your promotion potential.
Student loan debt is the best debt to have. As long as you keep your loans current once they go into repayment (6 months after graduation) you are going to be fine. Keeping them current is easy. Most lenders are fairly flexible with your payment options and you can request a forebearance (if they are federal loans) if you are not prepared to pay them back. Bear in mind that while in forebearance, interest will accrue and you will ultimately be responsible for paying it back. Now is the right time to go back. You are well ahead of the game with that many credits transferring and if you don't complete it, it will all be in vain and you will also have the 50k debt with nothing to show for it. Stay away from Online Universities. You will never have the motivation to study for this type of arrangement. Its too easy to be distracted. Go to a traditional school and manage any other debt you have--credit cards, car loans, etc. This is what you should be worried about. Student loans are fine.
Personal note: I had 67K in loans once I finished my Masters degree. I now make 85K and am slowly chipping away at the debt. Its really no big deal.
Reply:I would think about two things first the longer you stay away from that school enviroment the harder it will be for you to go back. Secondly, once you complete school although you are going to be paying back some debts, are you going to make more money with your degree? If you happy with what you are accomplishing now, by all means continue the path that you feel is right for you. No one is able to make that choice for you,. It is too big of a big deal to let someone else handle....
Reply:If your not motivated it is a waste of time. I say pay of some of your bills before the interest gets worse.
You probably are less motivated because you know how much more college classes are going to put you in debt. Once you are able to get rid of a big chunk of the debt you will be more motivated.
Reply:first you can do is pay off your debt first, because the interest could be more bigger and make more bigger your total amount. and then, after the total amount of your loan is reasonable with your financial budget. you can arrange to come back to your school.
dog teeth
I would like your opinion about returning to College now or later.?
No matter if you go back no or go back later you are going to be paying for school. However, school prices do go up every year so you should consider that too. I disagree with the person saying if you wait, you won't return. I waited 7 years and went back...I graduate in October...but I did classes online and loved it. If you are having doubts then I say hold off until you know for sure this is what you want to do.
Reply:git er done
Reply:I didn't take loans out for my first two years of school and all my friends did. While I was working my way through school, my friends were in school full-time. At about 24 years old I was making 33k per year and my freinds about 45-50k, so I thought it kinda evened itself out because I didn't have 40k in student loans. At 27 all my friend are making 70k+ and I still make the same amount of money and am still working on my degree because I could only afford two classes per semester (and some semester none). So, this semester I am taking a full course load and took out a 20k loan.
Moral of the story, finish school first, even if you need to take out loans. You will work at higher pay when you get out, so it doesn't all just work out the same. I was very wrong and paying for it now. Work part-time for some extra cash and pay for books or one of your classes here and than yourself it you can. That will lower the amount of your student loans.
Your loans should be in forbarance while your in school. See your aid office if they arn't. Most student loans don't need to be paid until 6 months after graduation, so you have time to find employment. Some are even intrest free until your forbarence period is up.
Reply:I say finish school. check your mailbox
Reply:Debt is so stessful.. but you have to keep in mind that when you have your degree hopefully you will be making more moolah... just make sure if you take a longer break you don't completely demotivate to finish... cause your so close!!!
Reply:Go to school! If you go to school you will get a better job probly,be smart, and get better money with the better job.
Reply:I think you need to look at what the pros and cons are for getting the degree. Would it mean more money for you in the future? Is this the career path you truly want? Does the company you work for offer some kind of continuing education reimbursement? How long would it take to finish getting the degree? Are there any night classes you could take or online courses so you can continue working? Is there any financial aid available to you either through the government or private organizations?
I personally think that the sooner you return to college the more likely you will be to finish your degree. The longer you put it off, the less likely you will be. Life has a way of getting in the way...romance, family relations etc... may crop up that give you further excuses of why the timing is not right.
I wish you the best of luck!
Reply:Go back now and finish. If you wait any longer you will more than likely be even less motivated. What is the point of going for as long as you did and spending all that money if you aren't going to finish? Just go back, get it done and over with then you can get a much better paying job, be able to pay back that debt a lot faster and be much more satisfied with the outcome.
Reply:you should go back now. most of the time when people wait to go back to school they dont end up going back. go and finish your degree and before long you will be making at least 2x your current salary. there are so many possibilities once you have a college degree. go back and have fun, then worry about money.
Reply:Ok. Go back to school and stop worrying about personal debt. An education is best kind of investment. If you don't finish your degree you will probably be making the same amount (maybe 2-3K more) in ten years and you will severly limit your promotion potential.
Student loan debt is the best debt to have. As long as you keep your loans current once they go into repayment (6 months after graduation) you are going to be fine. Keeping them current is easy. Most lenders are fairly flexible with your payment options and you can request a forebearance (if they are federal loans) if you are not prepared to pay them back. Bear in mind that while in forebearance, interest will accrue and you will ultimately be responsible for paying it back. Now is the right time to go back. You are well ahead of the game with that many credits transferring and if you don't complete it, it will all be in vain and you will also have the 50k debt with nothing to show for it. Stay away from Online Universities. You will never have the motivation to study for this type of arrangement. Its too easy to be distracted. Go to a traditional school and manage any other debt you have--credit cards, car loans, etc. This is what you should be worried about. Student loans are fine.
Personal note: I had 67K in loans once I finished my Masters degree. I now make 85K and am slowly chipping away at the debt. Its really no big deal.
Reply:I would think about two things first the longer you stay away from that school enviroment the harder it will be for you to go back. Secondly, once you complete school although you are going to be paying back some debts, are you going to make more money with your degree? If you happy with what you are accomplishing now, by all means continue the path that you feel is right for you. No one is able to make that choice for you,. It is too big of a big deal to let someone else handle....
Reply:If your not motivated it is a waste of time. I say pay of some of your bills before the interest gets worse.
You probably are less motivated because you know how much more college classes are going to put you in debt. Once you are able to get rid of a big chunk of the debt you will be more motivated.
Reply:first you can do is pay off your debt first, because the interest could be more bigger and make more bigger your total amount. and then, after the total amount of your loan is reasonable with your financial budget. you can arrange to come back to your school.
dog teeth
What in your opinion is the acceptable minimum wage one should take home each week for over 21s??
After tax taking into consideration you got to pay for travel, rent, food, gas, electric, water, clothes, etc
What in your opinion is the acceptable minimum wage one should take home each week for over 21s??
could be job related
would you pay a brain surgeon the same as a refuse collector
Reply:i was on £190 with a car to pay for tax, insurance, rent , food , fags ,you just have to scrape by as best as you can.
Reply:$5.45
Reply:id say £250
Reply:About £58 ....
(at least, that's what the Job Center thinks you can live off ...)
I have always thought that each individual should be paid according to what they have contributed ... in which case some people I have known (who created nothing but extra unproductive work for others) should have been presented with a bill at the end of the week :-)
Reply:I am well over 21 and a single female and have to pay all of the above and take home £170 per week
Reply:I'D SAY ABOUT £290 A WEEK . prices are so sky high
food , rates, council tax, mortgages everything you need that kind of money coming in. wages just arent going anywhere these days.
People are being ripped off big time
What in your opinion is the acceptable minimum wage one should take home each week for over 21s??
could be job related
would you pay a brain surgeon the same as a refuse collector
Reply:i was on £190 with a car to pay for tax, insurance, rent , food , fags ,you just have to scrape by as best as you can.
Reply:$5.45
Reply:id say £250
Reply:About £58 ....
(at least, that's what the Job Center thinks you can live off ...)
I have always thought that each individual should be paid according to what they have contributed ... in which case some people I have known (who created nothing but extra unproductive work for others) should have been presented with a bill at the end of the week :-)
Reply:I am well over 21 and a single female and have to pay all of the above and take home £170 per week
Reply:I'D SAY ABOUT £290 A WEEK . prices are so sky high
food , rates, council tax, mortgages everything you need that kind of money coming in. wages just arent going anywhere these days.
People are being ripped off big time
Want opinion on whether I can get a personal loan or not?
My credit is kinda icky (with the exception of paying off a car) and I have had a bank account for one year (went into the negative twice but paid it off) and I have had $4 in it for the past month or so. I am needing to go to them and ask them for a personal loan. It is for relocating and we will keep the account with them even after moving. I have no job but the boyfriend I have lived with for two years is signing on with a company (reason for moving) and we will be able to pay back for sure. I also have an excellent (well to do) cosigner. What do I tell the bank and what are they gonna ask me? Does it look good for me? I am asking for a $1000 loan. Please help! Thanks.
Want opinion on whether I can get a personal loan or not?
I would say it is all dependent on your cosigner. If they have the means to easily get a $1,000 loan the bank will not care about your credit because they can go directly to the cosigner for any payment you may miss.
The question is why not just borrow the $1,000 from the cosigner directly. Better to give them interest than a bank.
Reply:I would first get my credit report at
https://www.annualcreditreport.com/cra/i...
Its FREE. You are allowed a free one once a year. You can get it online, now and print it all out. Personal loans are hard to get, so start off knowing what they will be looking at.
Reply:Just ask your well to do cosigner for the money. I'm sure if they are willing to sign and well off then they have that small amount of money to loan you.
What about getting a credit card with a 1k limit on it?
Reply:If you have problems, have your really good co-signer get the loan for you and you pay them back. In reality, your co-signer is going to be taking out the loan anyway, so to avoid any problems, see if he/she will do that for you. Make sure you offer to sign a legal, notarized note for your co-signer with specifics on how, when, and how much you pay each month. That way he/she has recourse if you for some reason can't pay it back.
Reply:If you are not working then I doubt you would be able to get a loan, even though you would be able to pay the money back. Banks want to see that you have a certain monthly income so that they know you are reliable enough to pay the loan back.
Want opinion on whether I can get a personal loan or not?
I would say it is all dependent on your cosigner. If they have the means to easily get a $1,000 loan the bank will not care about your credit because they can go directly to the cosigner for any payment you may miss.
The question is why not just borrow the $1,000 from the cosigner directly. Better to give them interest than a bank.
Reply:I would first get my credit report at
https://www.annualcreditreport.com/cra/i...
Its FREE. You are allowed a free one once a year. You can get it online, now and print it all out. Personal loans are hard to get, so start off knowing what they will be looking at.
Reply:Just ask your well to do cosigner for the money. I'm sure if they are willing to sign and well off then they have that small amount of money to loan you.
What about getting a credit card with a 1k limit on it?
Reply:If you have problems, have your really good co-signer get the loan for you and you pay them back. In reality, your co-signer is going to be taking out the loan anyway, so to avoid any problems, see if he/she will do that for you. Make sure you offer to sign a legal, notarized note for your co-signer with specifics on how, when, and how much you pay each month. That way he/she has recourse if you for some reason can't pay it back.
Reply:If you are not working then I doubt you would be able to get a loan, even though you would be able to pay the money back. Banks want to see that you have a certain monthly income so that they know you are reliable enough to pay the loan back.
Give me your opinion of what I should do with my career options.?
I am currently making half of what I need to in order to pay bills, mortgage and feed my family. I feel drained and unaccomplished from this current situation but feel that it is a stepping stone. However, I really don't need THIS particular job in order to ultimately get to where I want to go. What would you do in your honest opinion? Please do not soliciate website get rich quick schemes either...
Give me your opinion of what I should do with my career options.?
hang in there. do the best you can. One day you will see it was worth it , just take one day at a time . you should be proud you have a family and home ,I don't know how old you are ,or what you do. Maybe try night school or a different job.Good luck
Reply:You are bitterly unhappy in your job - so change is needed.
**** stinks but it's warm
How long are you not going to take action?
You are a victim of your own decision! Now become a VICTOR...
Take massive action...
Decide now and plan your next move...
You are where you are cause of the decisions you made now just make a good decision!
Good Luck!!!
Give me your opinion of what I should do with my career options.?
hang in there. do the best you can. One day you will see it was worth it , just take one day at a time . you should be proud you have a family and home ,I don't know how old you are ,or what you do. Maybe try night school or a different job.Good luck
Reply:You are bitterly unhappy in your job - so change is needed.
**** stinks but it's warm
How long are you not going to take action?
You are a victim of your own decision! Now become a VICTOR...
Take massive action...
Decide now and plan your next move...
You are where you are cause of the decisions you made now just make a good decision!
Good Luck!!!
I would like LSBF student's opinion on the school and the MBA Financial Services programme.?
I am interested in attending the school and doing the programme but before deciding and paying all that money for fees upfront I would appreciate receiving students' comments on the school and programme. Is the programme worth it?
I would like LSBF student's opinion on the school and the MBA Financial Services programme.?
I am informed that the MBA Financial Services pro gramme offered by London School of Business and Finance is prestigious and is ranked 29th in the top 50 European schools in the FT .
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I would like LSBF student's opinion on the school and the MBA Financial Services programme.?
I am informed that the MBA Financial Services pro gramme offered by London School of Business and Finance is prestigious and is ranked 29th in the top 50 European schools in the FT .
braces for teeth
Who are some of the highest paid professionals?
doctors? if so what kind of doctors? architects? anyone's opinion is helpful.
Who are some of the highest paid professionals?
If only they made the most money, it's more like the Athletes, and Actors sad to say.
Reply:Doctors - surgeons, other specialists
Corporate lawyers
Reply:Eminent Doctors, Eminent Lawyers, Playback Singers and Scientists.
Reply:I think that if you are good at Plasma Physics, you get paid. Also International Airline Pilots are paid high too. It all depends on the company.
Reply:Sportspersons, investment bankers, doctors, lawyers, hedge fund managers
Reply:lawn tennis players
Reply:Bruce A Berman
Who are some of the highest paid professionals?
If only they made the most money, it's more like the Athletes, and Actors sad to say.
Reply:Doctors - surgeons, other specialists
Corporate lawyers
Reply:Eminent Doctors, Eminent Lawyers, Playback Singers and Scientists.
Reply:I think that if you are good at Plasma Physics, you get paid. Also International Airline Pilots are paid high too. It all depends on the company.
Reply:Sportspersons, investment bankers, doctors, lawyers, hedge fund managers
Reply:lawn tennis players
Reply:Bruce A Berman
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