In your opinion should the father of the bride have to pay for the wedding?

You have got to be kidding! So we went from home wrecker to $25000 ring to who pays for the wedding. ha ha he he. Beam me up Scotty! There is no intelligent life down here!

In your opinion should the father of the bride have to pay for the wedding?
Not any more than the bride HAS to be a virgin! Some of these traditions are so outdated....they just don't keep up with the times!
Reply:Yeah right, not my dad and he makes the most of all the parents. For Christmas we got money from my fiance's parents to help with the wedding, but my dad doesn't believe in giving anyone anything.I'm not expecting anything from my dad, in fact I would consider it a gift if I didn't have to end up paying to rent his tux.
Reply:Tradition is that the bride's family pays for the wedding, but now-a-days it doesn't really matter.


We're paying for our own wedding.
Reply:In my opinion the couple who want to get married should pay for the wedding.
Reply:Yes-back in the stone ages!


But, today with the high cost of everything


the payments are usually divided between bride, groom,


her parents and his parents!
Reply:In my opinion, the person benefitting from anything is the one responsible, whether that's a wedding, college tuition, or whatever. If someone like a parent offers to pay, that's a gift, and is in no way required.





I'm quite disturbed by people who expect and demand other people to carry them through life.
Reply:No. Only the bride and groom "should".


If anyone in the family OFFERS to assist financially, thats great, but they do not have to.
Reply:No, in my opinion, the father of the bride should not have to pay for the wedding, though I personally believe that he should at least help in some respect, even in a non-monetary sense.





Nowadays, the modern bride and groom normally have enough money to pay for the entire wedding themselves.
Reply:if the bride herself can't afford it, it falls on her family to pay for most of the cost.
Reply:no. It's tradition but some fathers are not financially stable enough to shell out all of that money! My parents are pretty broke but they are paying for our open bar and ceremony site, which is a HUGE deal for me. His parents are paying for a few things and we are taking care of the rest. In the days of exchanging livestock for daughters, it might have been easier but most people dont save up wedding funds for thier kids. If he is able, its a generous thing to do but other than that, I'd say the bride and groom are on thier own!
Reply:it is the tradition that the girls family pays for the wedding but mist people dont do that any more and they pay for the wedding themselves
Reply:No. The couple should pay for themselves and the parents may help a little if they can and want to.
Reply:No. It's 2008 now, not the 1900's. Most couples pay for their own weddings now. Although a lot of parents help with the expenses if possible.





If either of our parents said that they wanted to pay for my wedding, then great. I would gladly accept. But, I don't expect them to help. We're paying for our own wedding.
Reply:It used to be a tradition however it is NOT an obligation.......and if the girl has been 'out of the house' and on her own for a number of years, or this is her second wedding, then she's outta luck as far as Pappy playing Daddy Warbucks.....he might help but not foot the entire bill....as long as he approves. If he doesn't approve of the wedding or the groom....good luck is all I hafta say.





Besides, if you're gonna tell your 'fiance' to suck it up and buy you a 25,000.00 dollar engagement ring, why not have him suck it up even more and pay for a million dollar wedding, after all his last name is Trump...right?
Reply:No. The bride and groom are old enough to get married so they are old enough to pay themselves.





The father of the bride only paid for the wedding back in the days when the daughter was considered property (1950s and prior) that was transferred from one house to another. In today's society, unless he volunteers, he is under no obligation whatsoever to pay a dime toward the wedding.
Reply:mostly, but if were going to based it on today's situation, parent's of both side should help each other to have a successful wedding
Reply:if the men's side ask to pay in india the police will arrest them because it is illegal there. in my opinion no.
Reply:No.. in today's society if the couple is old enough to marry then they are old enough to pay for their own wedding. Many parents offer a monetary gift to be used to help pay but it should never be expected.





I am helping my daughter, but told her that I would match whatever she was spending. It kept her imagination in check.
Reply:Shouldn't HAVE to, if the family is well off it's a very nice thing to do. In the U.S. the average age a women is getting married is 28. I think that's plenty old enough to be an adult and support yourself. When couples used to get married much younger and women weren't supposed to have careers and were married off right away then the family paid for the wedding as a part of the dowry.
Reply:Definitely not *have* to. And he definitely should not jeopardize his home or retirement for a little one-day party. The couple will still be just as married if they had gone to the Justice of The Peace then out to Mickey-D's for a snack afterwards. If he wants to, he is certainly welcome to fund an affordable (by that family's standards) ceremony. Besides, as the previous poster wrote, girls used to be married off a lot younger. Now, more couples are older and professionally established.